I wish that I could promise you some sort of life-changing advice or message from the angels in this post, but unfortunately, all I can offer is what I'm thinking, and hope that some of you can relate and know that you aren't really alone after all. I read your emails to me about feeling like you don't have anyone to relate to or you feel left out at school, and my heart breaks for each one of you. I know exactly what feeling alone is like, and I know it is not fun. We may express these feelings to someone whom we are close to, and are told "It's just them. You're great. You just need to find the right people. etc.." In the end, though, it's very hard to think that anyone but you is to blame. "Maybe it's really my fault. Maybe I just keep isolating myself from people. Maybe I'm the one who put the chair in my own little corner," you think. If you're like I am, being in your own little corner can get very, well, lonely at times.
Like I said, I don't have much advice for you on how to escape your own little corner, but perhaps just on how to change your view while you sit there. I have always been someone who enjoys being alone at times, and I honestly don't believe this is a bad thing. I think being alone at times forces us to be our own teacher, motivator, coach, and even best friend. That being said, being alone all the time can hurt. You wonder if there is someone out there who can relate to your personality, and get frustrated when you seem to find no one. Rather than thinking to yourself it is your fault, or that you need to change, or even that everyone else needs to change, I invite you to become more observant and more patient. We could all be more observant when it comes to learning about other people and trying to see their good qualities. I also think we should try to be a bit more patient with ourselves and others. Everyone has a different path when it comes to finding their true love, and maybe even to finding their own true friends. Perhaps you just haven't met your best friend or maid of honor yet. Be patient, and know that everyone goes through a time of feeling trapped in their own little corner. It just takes some a little longer to find the right people to dance with.
